My boss has a foot fetish and I’m very uncomfortable. I love shoes but find myself avoiding my favorites because I don’t want him to check out my feet. What can I do? L.E., New York, NY
I’m not even going to ask how you know this…
You can control only your own behavior, no one else’s. You are choosing to limit your shoe choices in an effort to change his behavior because of what you think his behavior means. There may be perfectly benign reasons why he looks at people’s shoes. Would you feel differently about his behavior if you knew shoemaking was his family’s business?
Regardless of his intent, he isn’t crossing a line by looking at your shoes. I would recommend against bringing up what you believe to be his “issue” with anyone in management because it says a lot more about you than it does about him.
You are going to come across many different types of people throughout your career. Rather than adjusting your clothing choices based on what you imagine they care about, why not stay focused on what makes you happy?
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